Building Cliques into a party

Building Cliques into a party

It doesn't matter if it's the owner of a bar, the chairman of a prom committee, the Personnel manager of a company, or a bride, clients are always nervous wrecks. No one wants to throw a bad party, and the start of everyone looks pretty bad. First, clients are never satisfied with what they've got. They always want more of something. And second, clients never get everyone they invite. Their parties always look small. High school students who throw parties when their parents are away are the only ones in the world who get more than they expect.

To understand the anxiety of clients, let's examine the first quarter of a party. Guests arrive and bond into cliques. This is something people do naturally. It's called socializing. The party will stay in this state, a series of cliques, until a force acts upon it. The DJ, by position, is that Force. Hey DJ, then, must Bond cliques into a party. To accomplish this, you must craftily secure the focus and then direct it accordingly to the guest of honor, Dancefloor, activity, and contest. A DJ who holds the focus is an egomaniac, and one who moves it ineffectively is inept.

Timing is everything. It's a cliche, and it's true to this job. A DJ must know when to take the focus. If it's taken too soon, the DJs wild; and if it's taken too late, DJ's slow. The best time to take it is when the cliques have bonded as much as they're going to. It's after dinner when the people start smoking, getting drinks, and going to the bathroom. It's 45 minutes into a school dance when everyone realizes no one else is coming.

Unfortunately, the timeliness of good DJs and the anxiety of typical clients never coincide. Before DJs can even see focus, clients want outrageousness, usually while the guests are still arriving. Only idiots do that. So, you've got the calm clients in the first quarters of the parties. Tell them all parties of this type start in this way. They'll find that reassuring. They're not the only ones who throw bad parties. Tell them guests have to get to know one another dancing. If you really want to go off, point out the ones who are smiling. That'll let them know everyone's having a good time. Clients will see your self-confidence, give you their trust and then run off to do something else.