Things that get on our Nerves

Things that get on our Nerves

We start anew at every party. for the most part, most of the guests don't know who we are. Even if it's a referral, they still don't know. It's not like we're rockstars, and everyone knows what to expect. We're DJs, and we don't have a reputation, Well at least some of us. So, we get a lot of stupid questions at the start of every party.

“ Did you bring anything good?” is the worst. It's easy to get nasty and say “No”. That will definitely chase them away. They'll go right back to where they came from and say the DJ sucks. A cancer starts, and you'll never recover.

Everything's Relative,
and that's the reason for the question. People who like rock usually hate rap and vice versa. So, if guests who like rap hear rock, they won't think it's good. The only thing they thinks good is rap. They're question, then, really isn't a question. It's a cry to change the music.

Sometimes, the guest who asks it is out of place. For example, at a 50th Anniversary, oldies will dominate. a teenage grandson of the anniversary couple might like heavy metal. You can't very well play Heavy Metal at this type of party. So, when Teenage grandsons at 50th anniversaries ask if you've got anything good, ignore them.

“What are you going to play next?” is another annoying question. but at least the guest knows the party. It almost always comes from the dance floor; It rarely comes from a seat. The guest either hates the music at the moment and wants a change or loves it and wants more. Whatever the motive, the answer is always the same. Just tell them to wait and see.

“Can I look at your music?” is easily handled. The answer is always NO. You can't let anyone see what you've got. If they know, three things can happen, and two of them are bad. The good thing is they might find something they like and that's good for the party. But then again, they might not find anything they like, and that gives them a sense of finality. They know they're not going to hear anything good at this party. They'll tell their friends, and then a cancer starts. Or, they might find something they like that's bad for the party. For example a teenage grandson at a 50th anniversary party might see and then wan heavy metal. At this point, you have to tell him you're either not going to play it, at which time you'll be immediately hated, or you will and never do, at which time will be later hated. You can't win in this scenario. So, to avoid it, never give anyone access to all your music.

Instead, ask them what type of music there in two. Suggest appropriate songs in that type and then get agreement on one. It's a barter. But it's a quick one because a DJ has several songs in every type. Guests usually want types and groups more than songs. Of course, the more music a DJ has, the more likely a specific song will be available.

If it's a small party, and the client or the guest of honor or someone special wants to look at your music, you can let them. But don't show them everything. Just show them the songs in their type. They'll see what you've got, tell you what they want, and then get called to do something else before they can even ask about anything else.

“Where's the DJ who's usually here?” is the most damaging question. It can really destroy an ego. It means the guest knows a good DJ. If you get it at the end of the party, it's demoralizing. Someone didn't think you were better than good. But if you get it at the beginning, it's inspiring. Someone's giving you a standard. Get a compliment from that same guest later on in the party, and you know you kick butt. You set a new standard for someone. The ego goes right back to where it was before you were anew.